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To evaluate your behavior: 1 Do you say things that may make people uncomfortable? Think about this as if you were in a professional setting, church, or in front of your grandmother. Would you say those things in front of those people (and they not be upset?) 2. Are you paying attention for cues (facial expressions, making excuses to get away, avoidance, etc.,) from people that you make them uncomfortable? Some aggressors don't ever really pay attention to the reactions of who they are interacting with. Be conscious of how you are affecting others. 3. Are you stopping and backing off when someone says “No,” “Stop,” “I don’t think so,” “Probably not,” or any other negative response, or do you keep at it? 4. Do you make remarks about anyone’s body outside of an appropriate setting? (i.e. You are not a trainer at a gym, doctor in an office, coach on a field, etc.) 5. Have you had to “talk someone into” any type of interaction? Maybe you just thought they were "playing hard to get," but recognizing the problematic behavior is what this is all about. 6. If rejected by someone, do you get back at them by starting sexual rumours, or calling them names that imply anything to do with your relationship or sex? This behavior is very often exhibited by aggressors when the non-aggressor tries to end contact.

To evaluate your behavior:
1 Do you say things that may make people uncomfortable? Think about this as if you were in a professional setting, church, or in front of your grandmother. Would you say those things in front of those people (and they not be upset?)
2. Are you paying attention for cues (facial expressions, making excuses to get away, avoidance, etc.,) from people that you make them uncomfortable? Some aggressors don’t ever really pay attention to the reactions of who they are interacting with. Be conscious of how you are affecting others.
3. Are you stopping and backing off when someone says “No,” “Stop,” “I don’t think so,” “Probably not,” or any other negative response, or do you keep at it?
4. Do you make remarks about anyone’s body outside of an appropriate setting? (i.e. You are not a trainer at a gym, doctor in an office, coach on a field, etc.)
5. Have you had to “talk someone into” any type of interaction? Maybe you just thought they were “playing hard to get,” but recognizing the problematic behavior is what this is all about.
6. If rejected by someone, do you get back at them by starting sexual rumours, or calling them names that imply anything to do with your relationship or sex? This behavior is very often exhibited by aggressors when the non-aggressor tries to end contact.

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